By Kaitlyn Booker
It’s not a secret that freshman are the brunt of many jokes at school from upperclassman. We all just blame the freshman for things that go wrong in the school. Maybe that is unfair and maybe it isn’t.
Freshman are still young and inexperienced and, to some seniors and juniors, really immature.
I know all of the freshman are thinking “not all of us,” but the truth is more of you are than are not. And that is to no fault of your own. You all just haven’t lived enough. Yes, I am only about two to four years older than some of you, but honestly, that’s a big difference. It might not really seem like one now, but I didn’t think so either when I was a freshman.
Which is why I am writing this high school survival guide, to tell all of the freshman what I wish I had known at that age.
1. Your parents are not your enemies.
Just listen for a second!
This is not me saying your parents are always right, because that couldn’t be farther from the truth. But they are not out to make your life a living hell either. Most of what parents do is because they love you. Cliché, right? But it’s true. “Be home by 10,” “clean your room,” and “I don’t want you hanging out with those people.” Yes, hearing that from your parents sucks, and I know from experience.
However, imagine you tell your parents you’re going out, and they don’t ask where you’re going, who you’re going with, and what time you need to be home. They simply say “okay” and let you do whatever you want. They don’t call you whenever you’re not home at 2 AM or don’t freak out when you come home drunk.
Yeah, maybe the first few times you’ll love it, but what about the rest? Your parents don’t care what you do. They don’t care. They don’t care if you are safe or if you’re making good decisions. I know if it weren’t for my mother, I would probably be in jail, pregnant, or in a ditch somewhere. So I thank God that my mother kept track of what I was doing and who I was with.
Would you really want to live in a room that looks like a tornado went through it? Not cleaning is pretty nice, but soon it’s going to get gross and cramped, right? I know a few people who are 18+, and the thought of going into their house or room makes me cringe. I bet their parents didn’t make them clean their room when they were younger, did they?
The thought that your parents can be right about your friends make most people want to throw up, but chances are, they may be right. My mom always warned me about certain people I called “friends,” and I told her it didn’t matter what she thought, they were my friends and it was up to me.
Those “friends” caused me more hurt and pain than anyone who were honest about not liking me ever did.
2. That boy/girl isn’t everything in your world.
I remember being 15 and telling everyone how much I loved the guy I was with and how I couldn’t imagine being without him. I ignored the fact that he treated me like crap. I ignored the fact that my grades were dropping. I ignored the fact that I was pushing my real friends away. I ignored all the signs that I was losing who I was and just becoming his girlfriend.
I spent months wasting my time on him and crying my eyes out before I finally realized I deserved so much better. By that time I was no longer who I used to be.
I’m not trying to sound like some bitter girl who has been hurt too many times, but I didn’t have anyone telling me how easy it is to lose yourself in a relationship and when it ends… it hurts. Bad.
Times have changed. It’s harder to find your happily ever after now, but it’s not impossible. Just don’t give everything you have to someone who you might not want to run into in Wal-Mart 15 years from now.
The sad truth is only 2 in 100 high school sweethearts actually get married, and the few people who do only have a 54% chance of staying with their high school sweetheart for 10 years.
People grow; sometimes they grow apart.
I realize this might seem like I’m being pretty harsh, but you don’t have to take my advice. I just wish I had someone who I didn’t consider old and boring to tell me this stuff when I was your age. You might learn some of this information on your own, and some of this you will probably be glad to know beforehand.
I plan on doing this survival guide every week to two weeks, so I hope you liked it and will come back for more!
Hope I didn’t make you cry or ruin your dreams. Have a great day!
Kaitlyn Booker is a senior at Foley High School, who has hopes of going to college for criminal justice to be a detective or private investigator. In her free time she enjoys writing, listening to music, and hanging out with her friends. She loves writing opinion articles and hopes that she can make a difference.
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