By: Cassie Varcoe
What is it like to live without a parent? Well, frankly, it stinks.
A lot of children don’t live with their dad or mom. Gretchen Livingston said, “All told, 24 million U.S. children younger than 18 are living with an unmarried parent. Most (15 million) are living with a solo mother. In comparison, 5 million live with cohabiting parents and 3 million live with a solo father. In 1968 – the first year for which these data are publicly available – 9 million children were living with an unmarried parent, 8 million of whom had a solo mom.”
I am one of the 15 million children that lives with only their mom, so here’s what life is like for me without a dad.
It is hard to listen to kids that say they are going to their dad’s house again. Every time I hear that, I think, hey, try to live without seeing or talking to your dad at all. It is true that I have never talked to or seen my dad in my whole lifetime. I have two brothers that are from my dad that I have never seen in my whole life. I feel sad that he does not care about me or even care to try to see me.
Sometimes, I feel like if I had him in my life, things would turn out differently. Demi Lovato sang a song called “Father.” It is a song about wishing her dad his best and saying sorry that she felt angry. I love this song because my dad was a troubled man. He did drugs and drank alcohol. The song also says, “Sometimes I think I hate you,” which it is true sometimes, because I have hated him, and yet other times, I even loved him. Some of the lyrics are “Father, I’m gonna say thank you, Even if I don’t understand, Oh, you left us alone, I guess that made me who I am.”
Not living with a father or knowing what he is like on a daily basis makes me stronger because I know that I can go through any rough times. I am myself for a reason. And I always say even though I don’t have an earthly-father, I have a heavenly-father who loves me so much and wants what is best for me.
Here’s a thought before I go: appreciate what you have, because you do not know when you are going to lose all of it.